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Cool post.
Your best yet, Julie. I look forward to each new part. Very insightful, and so easy to relate to. Keep em coming, sweetie!
I have been thinking of an interesting possible blog for you Julie.:)
It may seem an obvious topic, but I would like to have your insight into whether men and women can really be "best friends".
Having had the majority of my close friendships with women, it would be interesting to have another perspective.
I am not entrely convinced men and women can be, as both sexes think and tend to act so differently. Men are from Mars, women from Venus sort of thing.
Angel I'm gonna say yes but it's a conditional yes.
Many of my closest friends have been female, but in my experience it only works if theres no sexual interest on either part OR if both parties like being friends with benefits and don't have any desire for it to develop into anything more exclusive.
A female friend with whom I have never had any sexual interest, nor she for me, did the most unselfish thing anyone has ever done for me and the result literally saved my life.
I'm going to write about it some day, it's an amazing story.
So in a word yes we can but there are things that facilitate it or thwart it just as with any friendship.
Thank you, Hunter and Angel.
I agree with Mike about the conditions surrounding male and female friendships, and I am also intrigued about the "life saving" portion of your experience, Mike. Please do write that post!
I think it's an interesting topic. There re so many angles to come from. I just wrote and rewrote this paragraph because I keep writing it all out right here. I'll make my notes now!
Mike, Julie, I almost agree with you... almost. About the time I finished reading your comments, Lady H walked in the office. I asked her, "who's your best friend?". Without hesitation, she replied "you". In most relationships, I would fully agree that it needs to be an "either/or" agreement. Either friends or lovers, but not both. In rare cases, it can be both. I never would have thought it until we met. Now, it's been almost six years, and we still live, work, travel, and play together. Normally, I would need a break, some alone time, even from my closest friends. We're practically together 24/7, and never get tired of it. And without a doubt, she's my best friend... Sorry, Mike, you have to settle for a close second... *grin*
It's twu! It's twu! Hunter is definitely my best friend. Let me explain my definition of that phrase, as there can be different requirements for everybody. My best friend is there when I need him, no matter what the reason or situation. My best friend listens to what I have to say, sympathizes when it's appropriate, snuggles me when it's time to, and even plays Devil's Advocate when I ask. We spend alot of time together so he has to be funny, thoughtful, considerate and serious pretty much when I need him to be. Don't get me wrong, I am FAR from high-maintenance and never really ask anything of him. He just knows what I need when I need it. AND....he needs me, too. Ours is truly a storybook relationship........I have found my Prince Charming and my Best Friend, all rolled into one gorgeous package! How lucky is that?
I will say this you guys have probably the best relationship I have ever encountered. No doubt y'all are made for each other and I'd never try to edge out Missy LOL
But WTF is with the sawdust?
I think that is the ultimate goal, for sure. I think it would make a great post because sometimes you want to be able to just be friends with someone, but in the end, you also want to be able to share everything with someone, and when we're really connected, even just on a platonic level, it's hard for us to not be curious about always taking it a step further to see just how much better the relationship can be. You guys are the exception when you should be the rule. I am very happy for you, too! Doug is definitely my best friend. Hmm... I love to hear a success story.